You need to take care of yourself when caring for someone else Nothing’s more important than family and friends, right? Few disagree, and we cherish the people we can depend on. In fact, you may be one of those people: When something goes wrong and a relative or pal needs you, you’re there, no questions asked. While that’s a great trait, it can come at a steep price: your health. In fact, it could be that one of the biggest risks to your health isn’t backed-up arteries or sky-high blood sugar, but something that’s usually associated with Freud and your mom: Guilt. If you’re so focused on being there for everyone else, there’s a good chance you’re not spending enough time prioritizing your own health. Dr. Jordan Metzl, author of The Exercise Cure and a sports medicine doctor at New York’s Hospital for Special Surgery, puts it this way to his patients: “If you’re taking care of everybody else, are you taking care of yourself? People in their 40s, 50s, and 60s have often dedicated their whole adult lives to taking care of others, and sometimes neglected their own health.” Regular workouts — hard to fit in under the best of circumstances — are one of the first things to go when you put others first, says Jennifer Huberty, an associate professor in the School of Nutrition and Health Promotion/Exercise and Wellness at Arizona State University. Huberty sees it all the time with the midlife women she works with in Fit Minded, the book club-based program she created to encourage physical activity. “I hear a lot, ‘I have to go home and feed my family.’ That’s baloney,” says Huberty. “Nobody’s going to die if you eat dinner at 6...